life · memories · whatever!

Monday musings…

“You can be happy, or you can be unhappy.
It’s just according to how you look at things.”
Walt Disney

Not every moment is a happy one. Sometimes stuff happens that makes us unhappy. Life is never, or very rarely, perfect. That’s the way life is. It is good or bad, and most of the time, it is just okay.

I am pretty satisfied with okay. In fact, to me, okay is pretty good and much better than bad. When things are okay, I am happy. Life is usually good, so I am not often unhappy.

Sadly, I have an unhappy friend. In all the years I have known her, I have never heard her laugh. Never! She does occasionally smile, and sometimes she has something positive to say, not often but sometimes.

Admittedly, she has had some hard times and disappointments, but that is the way it is for all of us. It is up to us to come to terms with the bad and sad. If it means asking for help, do it. If it means forgiving what seems unforgivable, do it…as often as needed.

Asking for help from friends or seeing a therapist is not a weakness. It takes strength and courage to be open and honest about troubles and pain. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, but it does mean letting go. Letting go of the bad memories. Letting go of the hopes and wishes that were part of the dreams that didn’t come true. Letting go of those that caused pain and grief.

I have talked to my friend about these things. She says I don’t understand because I have a good life and never had to face hardship. If she only knew what I am not telling her! Maybe someday, I will be able to be completely open with her. But I still have work to do before that can happen.

Life isn’t easy, but it is good.
As Mr. Disney said, it’s all in how you look at it.

Image by Dorota Dylka from Pixabay

life · past · present · whatever!

Monday musings…

Contentment is accepting the world
as an imperfect place.
Anonymous

I wasn’t always content, far from it. There was more to my discontent than the usual stuff of being a teenager, and it got worse with time. As a young woman and into middle age, I was unhappy most of the time. It just became the norm for me.

Somewhere around 50 years, I got tired of the life I was living. I decided to make some changes, but I didn’t know quite what they would be. So, for a time, I went to a psychologist. Best thing I ever did!

I learned a lot about myself and how I looked at life and living. The biggest thing I learned was how often I said or thought, “I should.” Why did I think “I should” do something or be something, feel or want to be different in some way? I was always trying to be who or what I thought others expected or wanted me to be. The whole experience of being in counseling was eye-opening. It was difficult, and it hurt. There were lots of tears. Oh, and there was laughter, too. I’m a pretty funny person. I thought that was a bad thing. There wasn’t a lot of laughter in our house when I was growing up.

Anyway, when I came to my 50th birthday, I decided I would be who I am. I would just be me, whoever and whatever that was. I likened it to being a butterfly. I was leaving the cocoon and would be the real me. Another best thing I ever did!

Do you know what I found out when I left the cocoon? I am a curious, daydreaming, intelligent introvert with a good sense of humor. Some people like me, some don’t, and that’s okay.

The most important lesson I learned is that I don’t have to be what others want me to be or who they think I ought to be. I am who I am, the good, the bad, and the sometimes ugly. Deal with it or go and bother somebody else with your idealistic nonsense.

Oh, by the way on my 50th birthday, I got a tattoo.
It’s a butterfly just out of the cocoon and beginning to fly.

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life · nothing · thinking

Thursday thoughts…

People say nothing is impossible,
but I do nothing everyday.
A. A. Milne

Yep, that’s me. I am very good at doing nothing. Well, I do think a lot. That’s doing something. Right? Mostly I think about what I should be doing. You know, stuff that needs to be done.

These thoughts are late because I was thinking. Not necessarily about what to write today but about what needs to get done. Like dusting and vacuuming and cleaning up the messy junk closet. There’s lots of other stuff that needs to get done, but I don’t want to think about that now, maybe tomorrow, or the next day.

So, you see, nothing is possible if you think about it.
But then thinking is something so maybe nothing is impossible.

challenge · life · whatever!

Thursday thoughts…

It is really complicated to make something simple,
but really simple to make something complicated.
Cool Funny Quotes

I have a good reason for why today’s post is later than usual.
Just read the quote above the picture of Teddy.

I am not a the greatest computer user around. I am not the worst but there are times the computer is, shall we say , a challenge. Today it has been a challenge. I use an app when I write. Or I used to use it. Not long ago it stopped working when I write a blog post. It works fine on comments but not when I write a post.

So, I contacted the app’s customer service. They got back to me right away with what to do and they would help me fix the problem. I was happy to hear from them so quickly but the instructions they sent me were complicated! At least to me, I guess they are simple to techie wizards. I texted again and told them duh…huh? They texted back and “clarified” the instructions. Well, sort of. I went to where I was told to go on my computer and started the process.

But there was a big warning thingie that had all kinds of warnings and exclamation points about making any changes there. Kinda scary. Actually, very scary! I thought about doing what they told me to do. They are the experts and wouldn’t tell me to do something that would destroy my computer, right? Most likely I just don’t understand the instructions. But I do understand that when something is too complicated for me comprehend it is better to leave well enough alone

So, where does that leave me? With no editing help here except when I make comments. Oh, I will continue to write. I will just plod along with my English knowledge as a high school dropout. Things might not be perfect but you know how I feel about perfection. If you don’t, read Monday musings that I wrote July 5.