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The Way I See It
Recently it was brought to my attention that I am an optimist. Like I don’t know this about myself! Anyway, this was not said as a compliment. The person who was speaking said that as an optimist I have an unrealistic view of things. She added that she was a realist and had a better picture of the way things are in life.
What do you think? Does being an optimist mean I don’t see things as they really are? That I only see the sunny side of the street and never see dark clouds? Because I don’t dwell on the negative and work to see the positive does that make me unrealistic?
Believe me, I know there is darkness, unhappiness, fear, sorrow, and all sorts of badness in life! I don’t live in a sterile bubble shielded from all harm. I have probably lived three-quarters of my life and there has been some incredible sadness in those years but that doesn’t define me. Sad times, bad times, are part of what has made me the person I am but they are not the whole of me. There has also been amazing joy in my life and some of the joy, the positive, came out of the negative sadness. I chose to be optimistic and I am a realist, I see the good and the bad. I just don’t dwell on the bad. If I can change something to make it better I will; if it cannot be changed, made better, and I can leave it I do. But if I cannot leave it I will accept it as part of my world but I will not make it the center of who I am.
They way I see it…all optimists are not unrealistic in their views any more than all pessimists are realistic in theirs. And given the happiness ratio between the two, I think I will stick with optimism.