“Life is what we make it,
always has been, always will be.”
Grandma Moses
If you have spent any time reading Patricia’s Place you know that I tend to be positive. I know there is ugliness in the world and there has been some in my life. I choose to learn the lessons negative things have to teach and move on rather than dwell in that place. There are times I am hurt and unhappy and I cry. I think unhappiness, sadness, grief, hurt, anger, all the negatives are just part of life and crying is what helps cleanse our feelings and emotions so we can heal and be happy again.
I know a woman who is very unhappy. She complains constantly and almost always has a negative response to any comment. I don’t think I have ever heard her laugh. Oh, occasionally there is a little chuckle that is short and quiet but never a great big loud guffaw belly laugh that makes you happy just to hear it whether you know the reason for it or not. She is very smart and a hard worker. I like her and I think she likes me. But we rarely agree about anything! She always sees the negative and never wants to consider that she may be wrong.
How we look at life and how we respond to what has happened, is happening, and what may happen makes a difference in the kind of life we live. It is our decision whether to dwell in the past or worry about what the future holds or live in the here and now with happy grateful hearts. I think whether we are basically happy or miserable is up to us.
I know I drive my friend crazy with my positivity,
just like she drives me crazy with her negativity.
I won’t give up.
I am positively stubborn!
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Keep with it, she’ll get it eventually. Spoken by a former grumpy gal.
Well, I have known her quite a while and so far no changes observed but I am hopeful.
I feel being positive uses less energy than being negative. I have a negative friend that frequents the same sports bar that we do. She spouts out negativity about everything. I avoid her because I don’t want to put up with it. I love the quote by Grandma Moses.
Being positive does use less energy. In fact, I think it produces energy. I don’t avoid my friend but we don’t see each other often.
Life deals you a hand and you can either accept and adapt or you can complain. I’m with you. There is far more positive than negative. I refuse to hang out with negative people.
I linked this post to Awww Mondays. That kitty is a huge Awww. Have a fabulous day and week, Patricia. ♥
I think being negative is very draining and exhausting. Being positive gives one energy. The kitty is Awww inspiring thanks for linking.
Boy, did this come at the right time. I love what you say about crying. Anne Lamott says, tears Hydrate and are a Baptism, so both walk hand and hand.
I have many things I’m concerned about right now, trying vigilantly to stay in the here and now…where my feet are, grateful for the moment. It’s an art to be sure. Thanks. I know I always say this but….I love the way you write. Susannah
PS I too had a friend like yours that wouldn’t walk in the light. We no longer talk since I suggested we try talking about happier things, What I realize now is, I too have that tendency to slip behind clouds. In 12 Step they say…if you spot it, you got it. The difference I fight to break through . Thanks
Keep up the good fight and know that you are not alone, my friend.
If only Teddy made house calls. 😸
Anne Lamott says it so well. I will say a prayer that you stay strong and vigilant and grateful.
I’d really appreciate that. Prayer is like watering a thirsty plant. 🙏
Being optimistic is a great asset.
An art to keep that ball in the air.
So true. It needs constant practice
It sure does. It was a very nice post she wrote.
It is indeed
Thank you both for the encouragement! ;D
And a most important one. Without being optimistic we would miss some of our best assets.