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Thursday thoughts…

Some people won’t suffer in silence because
that would take all the fun out of it.

The words above the picture are from bluebird of bitterness
post yesterday. And they are so true!

We all know someone, or many someones, who are very vocal about their problems and suffering that drives us crazy. They always seem to have something to complain about and make it quite clear that their life is awful…and that we should agree with them. So, just agree with them. Don’t make any suggestions or even hint that things will get better. That will just start another tirade about how you don’t understand them and what an awful time they are having.

It is okay to have an occasional rant about our troubles and woes, even good for us. It can be cathartic to just let it all out and then be done with it. I have been known to rant and rave about what is bothering me but I see no need to go on and on. Carrying on just makes whoever is listening wonder why they ever thought of you as a nice person.

One bit of advise then this mini rant will be over. If you suffer loudly and long it is best to be sure the person subjected to it is a really good friend…or someone you don’t care about at all.

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19 thoughts on “Thursday thoughts…

  1. I avoid people that constantly whine and rant. Some people just like to be miserable and think others should feel the same way. Not my cup of tea!

  2. Some folks are just unhappy and they want everyone else to be unhappy too. Not going to happen. If a person can suck the air and happiness out of the room then I’m gone.

    Have a fabulous day, Patricia. β™₯

  3. I’ve really worked on not mewling over every little thing. I pray instead. Cast my care, hoping for a little celestial relief.

    I had a longtime friend who, when I’d invite her over for coffee, all she did was complain So I suggested, we try to speak of happy, nicer things. She no longer speaks to me. Counting blessings was a deal breaker for her, How sad is that? One can change their attitude with gratitude, if they’d only take the time.

    As usual, I like your thoughts. πŸ™‚

    1. It is really sad to lose sight of blessings because of complaints we may have. It is hard to understand someone who would end a friendship because of a simple suggestion like talking about happy things. I guess there are people who are so used to complaining that they can’t think of anything that makes them happy. What a miserable way to live.

          1. Gratitude needs to be a conscious decision. I think those who’ve always been blessed without needing much, have been cheated. I remember having so little, so often, so now whatever comes my way gets celebrated with great humility. God is in the details, I’ve heard it said. I think it’s true.

            1. That’s right. Reminds me of Anne Lamott’s Grace quote: β€œI do not understand the mystery of grace — only that it meets us where we are and does not leave us where it found us.” πŸ™‚

  4. πŸ™‚ I had a friend (notice I said had). He was interesting and fun but his life was always in shambles. His relationships never seemed to work out and he never landed the right job but it didn’t take a brain surgeon to figure out why. I was naΓ―ve enough at the time to try to help. I even got him a job interview for something with potential to grow. Nope, the job was a lateral financially and he wasn’t willing to do that. He lost the job he didn’t like a few years later and I lost contact with him. It was too draining. As you say, most complainers aren’t looking for suggestions or even help. They are looking for someone to listen and affirm how awful their life is.

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