Most folks are about as happy
as they make up their minds to be.
I know from experience this is true. In the past, I spent lots of time thinking about the negatives in my life. I was so serious about all that was bad that I rarely thought about what was good. What a waste of energy!
It took me some time and hard lessons to learn that being sad and unhappy was how I chose to live, and it didn’t have to be that way. My attitude and perspective needed to be changed. What I thought and how I looked at life was wrong.
I am not a Pollyanna type of person who only sees the good. I know there is bad stuff happening out there. But I have a choice about how I deal with it. I can focus on the ugly things I can’t change and complain about them and be unhappy. Or I can look for the good that may not be easy to see but worth the effort to find it.
I now choose to look at life positively. In the world today, it isn’t always easy to find the good. Sometimes we have to pull out the weeds to see the flowers. It does take a bit of effort but is worth the work.
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What we have before us are some breathtaking
opportunities disguised as insoluble problems.
John W. Gardner
I like this quote, though I can’t relate to it personally. I have a pretty simple life, without much that is breathtaking or insoluble. Of course, I have problems. But my problems are routine sort of stuff, nothing that I haven’t been able to handle. The opportunities that came my way have never been breathtaking. I have had opportunities but nothing outstanding.
I had more problems when I was younger. I was often unwise in the choices and decisions I made. I tended to act without much thought, and I rarely asked for or took any advice. I admit that I sometimes paid a high price for my actions. But in time, I learned my lessons and became a bit wiser.
As for opportunities, some were good, some not so good, and some simply hard lessons learned. Nothing that came my way was breathtaking though a couple were heartbreaking. When I grew up and matured, I became more aware of the importance of thinking things through and considering other people’s advice. So, still nothing breathtaking but no longer anything heartbreaking.
As someone once said to me,
Life is good if you don’t weaken.
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Lighten up, just enjoy life, smile more, laugh more,
and don’t get so worked up about things.
Well, it’s after seven and I am just now writing today’s musing. I’m doing it late, not because I was busy and didn’t have time to write, but because I was in a crummy mood. I have been in this mood for a few days. No big reason for it, and it is time for it to be gone!
When I was trying to think of something to write about, I saw the quote I posted above Jack’s picture. Something I needed to see. It made me think about my bad mood. What a waste of time, being miserable about nothing. Thinking about it made me laugh at myself. What a silly woman I am!
I feel better, though I still don’t have anything to write.
So, I will just say goodnight.
It’s a job that’s never started
that takes the longest to finish.
It is true if you don’t start something you will never finish it. I can prove it. Yesterday, I kept reminding myself that Monday musings needed to be written. It was Monday after all. But I never did start writing. Here it is Tuesday, too late for Monday musings, so I will just talk. Not that I have anything much to say today.
The weather has been great for walking the last few days. Not too hot and little humidity. That makes me happy. It’s supposed to rain the next few days, which we need, but I will complain if I have to walk in the rain. In fact, I probably won’t take a walk if it rains and I will complain about that.
Here’s something else I have been complaining about lately, movies. Why do they have to be over two hours long? Whatever happened to ninety minute movies? I don’t go out to movies, I get them from Netflix and watch them at home, so I could pause them, do something else then go back and watch the rest later. But, for some reason I always mess up the pause thing and have to go back to the beginning and fast forward to where I left off…if I remember where I left off and if I remembered to pause before turning the TV off. See, another complaint.
I am in dire need of an attitude adjustment. If only there was an app for it. But there isn’t! Is that a complaint or just a comment? I could go on and on like this, but I will spare you, and stop here.
I will be in better spirits Thursday when I share my thoughts.
At least, I hope so.
I’m driving myself crazy with all this complaining nonsense.
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The weather is the weather.
You have to deal with whatever is out there.
Yesterday it rained all day. Not a nasty kind of rain, a nice rain. It was cool, but with no wind, just lots of low grey clouds and rain. It was a good day for looking out the window and daydreaming. I didn’t complain about the weather. Really, what good would that do other than to make me cranky?
And for some unknown reason it made me want to get something off my to-do list. So, that’s what I did. I went through piles of papers that needed to be sorted. Some papers were trash and to the trash they went. But there were a lot of papers that need to be kept and they got filed. I really don’t know why most of them must be kept, but I have been told to keep them and so I do. Anyway, that meant the files needed to be sorted through. And I did it! The “clean up papers and files” on the to-do list is done and scratched off. You know that feels good!
But back to the weather. Weather is what it is. No point in complaining about it. Last summer I complained everyday about the heat and humidity. Did it change anything? No. Well, it did change my usual easy going happy self into someone I didn’t like. Most of the summer was miserable, not because of the weather but because of my attitude. So, I have decided that like my files, my attitude will be clean and neat, with the worthless thrown out and the needed stuff kept. I may need a reminder of this in July and August.
If I write negatively,
someone should send a comment reminding me
of what I have written today.
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Your living is determined not so much by
what life brings to you as by
the attitude you bring to life;
Not so much by what happens to you as by
the way your mind looks at what happens.
Sometimes life is good and sometimes it’s bad. Sometimes it is beautiful and sometimes it’s ugly. Whatever our lives are like at any given time is pretty much up to us. How we act, or react, to the happenings in life makes a difference.
In bad and ugly times we can yell and scream, we can hide and cry, feel sorry for ourselves and be miserable. Or we can call and ask for help, get up and work on solutions to the problems and be productive. Most importantly, we must remember that we made it through tough times before, and not only survived but are stronger and smarter than we were. The good and beautiful life will return with all its happiness and joy.
The good and beautiful life is a treasure. Granted, sometimes that treasure gets hidden under a lot of trash and it takes determination to find it again. And when we find it again we may have to do some work to get it back to what it was. In truth, difficult times help us understand the worth of the treasure.
It’s all about attitude.
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