If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be. Maya Angelou
I am not sure I know what normal is. What I do know is that I have always found it hard to fit in. As a child, it wasn’t too obvious that I was not like other kids. But in my teens, my different ways of thinking and behaving were noticeable.
Oh, I wasn’t wild or crazy acting. I was just different than my contemporaries. Most people did not understand me, and those my age often thought I was weird. But I did have some good friends that accepted me as I was, and that was a blessing!
As a young woman, I was a bit wild and crazy. With the wild craziness, I learned a few hard lessons that have served me well over the years. And I grew up to be who I am now. Maybe not amazing, but still different in how I think and live but in a quiet way.
Maybe I just don’t know what normal is. That’s okay. I’m happily me.
If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done. Bruce Lee
I have proved this to be true many times.
Most recently I have been thinking about painting my bathroom. A couple of months ago I removed the wallpaper. Then I hired Phillip, the handyman, to prepare the walls for paint. Took three days of sanding, priming, sanding, skim coating, sanding, putting a finish coat on, and sanding. The hard work is done. Phillip did that. I just have to paint.
When I go to bed I tell myself tomorrow I will get the job done. But somehow when morning comes and tomorrow is gone, and I start thinking about painting today…well, let’s just say it’s a lot to think about and that takes time. By the time I have thought about it the day is half gone and there are better things to do. Or at least things that aren’t work that I don’t want to do today.
Okay, tomorrow. Maybe. I will have to think about it.
Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Abraham Lincoln
I know from experience this is true. In the past, I spent lots of time thinking about the negatives in my life. I was so serious about all that was bad that I rarely thought about what was good. What a waste of energy!
It took me some time and hard lessons to learn that being sad and unhappy was how I chose to live, and it didn’t have to be that way. My attitude and perspective needed to be changed. What I thought and how I looked at life was wrong.
I am not a Pollyanna type of person who only sees the good. I know there is bad stuff happening out there. But I have a choice about how I deal with it. I can focus on the ugly things I can’t change and complain about them and be unhappy. Or I can look for the good that may not be easy to see but worth the effort to find it.
I now choose to look at life positively. In the world today, it isn’t always easy to find the good. Sometimes we have to pull out the weeds to see the flowers. It does take a bit of effort but is worth the work.
Whether it’s the best of times or the worst of times, it’s the only time we’ve got. Art Buchwald
It’s true the only time we have is now. Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet. Whether it is good or bad, today is all we have, so we might as well make the best of it.
I have pretty much accepted yesterday for what it was, some good and some bad, all just memories now. And though I think about tomorrow and make plans for the future, I know those thoughts and plans may not happen the way I want.
I have lived long enough that I now have more years in my past than I have in my future. I’m okay with that. I look forward to whatever time I have, hoping for the best of times and knowing that worst of times could happen. I have lived and learned lessons that will see me through whatever is to be. Bottom line, today is what I have and I will make the best of it.
I have life, laughter, and love today. That’s good enough for me.
Our life is what our thoughts make it. Marcus Aurelius
I agree with Marcus. When I have to do something that I don’t want to do and have negative thoughts, the experience is usually less than pleasant. But if I keep my thoughts positive, all is well. And it was the case yesterday.
I had a doctor’s appointment for my yearly wellness visit. The visit was with a new doctor. Not just new to me but recently finished with school and training. (She could be my granddaughter!) At first, I wondered if it was a good idea to see someone with so little experience. The practice does have several other doctors with experience and, I am sure they are there to help if needed. So, I went with a pretty positive attitude.
You know what! For the first time in a long time, I saw a doctor who spent more than ten minutes with me. I was in the exam room for forty minutes! She asked a lot of questions and listened to me. Then she asked if I had any questions. I did have a few. She listened to me and answered each one. She made some suggestions, and there will be another visit in a couple of months to follow up with those.
Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Les Brown
Most people in our lives have ideas and expectations of who we are or who we think we should be. Most often, those who love and respect us see the potential for our success and happiness. They encourage us and help us find our way.
But there may be others who become stumbling blocks because they are trying to live through us. They want what we have and to be who we are. When we do things differently and follow the path we see, they may become argumentive and discouraging. They may tell us we are disappointing, that we don’t understand, that experience has taught them the right thing to do.
It is wise to listen to advice from many people and to listen to their opinions, taking the time to consider their views. We have one life to live, and we are to live it as who we are, not as someone else may want us to be. So, listen and think, ponder and wonder. If we are true to ourselves, we will do what we know is best for us and walk our path wherever it leads.