“What is day is it?” asked Pooh
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet
“My favorite day,” said Pooh
Pooh has a great attitude. We should have the same but we don’t live in Pooh’s world. He lives in a happy and loving world where no matter what today brings it always ends up wonderful and there are sweet dreams. Pooh’s world is fiction where all ends well and everyone lives happily ever after.
Our world is not a place of fiction, though there are those that would like us to believe their fiction is truth, and all does not end well with sweet dreams to follow. Still, we should try to have a good attitude. But there are things that just get in the way. Some of the things that get in the way of my good attitude and don’t make for favorite days in my life;
Sometimes I don’t see what others see when looking at the same things
Sometimes I don’t hear what others hear when listening to the same things
Some things I think are right others think are wrong
Some things I think are wrong others think are right
There are people I like that others don’t
There are people I don’t like that others do
I don’t love or even like some people
Some people don’t love or even like me
That’s just the way it is. I am trying to be more understanding. But it is a bumpy road.
This day is the only one we have
It may not be a favorite
Let’s make it the very best we can
“Good manners sometimes means
simply putting up with other people’s bad manners.”
H.Jackson Brown, Jr
I always worked with the public. First, as a hairdresser then managing a card and gift shop and many years in furniture sales. For the most part, people were nice, polite, and pretty easy to get along with. Of course, there were those few that could ruin a day in a matter of minutes if I let them.
When I was a hairdresser it was easy to weed out the difficult clients who never seemed pleased with my efforts. If they didn’t move on to another stylist on their own I simply told them I thought that perhaps they would be happier with another stylist. Usually, that did the trick and they would see someone else. But sometimes they would talk with me and we would come to understand each other better and continue our relationship with more patience.
Card and gift shop…most customers were pleasant and easy to get along with. Every once in a while there would be a problem but nothing big. After a couple of years, I quit because I was bored with the job and to be honest my good manners were not all that good at the end.
Furniture sales I loved. I learned a lot and had great clients. There were those few that were difficult but I understood that furnishing a room or house or office can seem overwhelming to some. For me, it was a fun challenge for the most part and I enjoyed the interaction with clients. Of course, there were problems and bad days with dissatisfied customers but rarely were their problems ones that couldn’t be solved. It just took time and patience and a little more work. It also helped that the management and staff were wonderful to work with.
In my working life, I did learn that sometimes bad manners happen and the best thing to do is not get upset and make the situation worse by responding with bad manners. When I was young, I started working at 17, I wasn’t the best-mannered person and often was offended when someone thought differently than me and bluntly let them know what I thought.
As they say…with age comes wisdom.
I learned to treat others as I would like to be treated
and to meet bad manners with good manners.
Makes the days, and people, nicer and more pleasant.
“Optimism is an elected attitude, a form of emotional courage.” Julia Cameron
Optimism is something we choose in spite of the way things are…or seem to be. The world is often a scary place. It is big and filled with lots of different people that are often hard to understand and get along with a lot of the time. People tend to talk about the troubles and woes of life rather than the happiness and rewards.
It is best to not let circumstances determine how we think. It isn’t easy to face challenges, some of which can be overwhelming if we allow our fear to be bigger than the challenges. Optimism requires some work. It doesn’t just happen. Really, it is easier to just give up and be pessimistic. What a depressing thought!
Anyone can survive daily life, but it is a person of courage who thrives.
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“For me, losing… isn’t failure, it’s research.” Billie Jean King
In life sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Of course, winning is everyone’s goal and first choice for the outcome of any event or circumstance. However, where there is a winner there is also a loser. That’s just a fact of life.
When we win life is good, we feel good and are happy. Not so much when we lose. Being the loser makes life a bit difficult, and we feel bad and sad or mad. But failure isn’t always a bad thing. It’s all about our attitude.
Often, we learn more from losing than winning. We learn where our weaknesses are and what we need to focus on to be better at what we do. We learn where our strengths are and how we can use them in the future. If we are smart, we learn how to lose graciously, and most importantly, remembering what it feels like to lose…we win graciously.
“Christmas is a stocking stuffed with sugary goodness.” Mo Rocca
Christmas eve we would hang our stockings for Santa to put little surprises in. They weren’t those big fancy stockings they were our own socks, the ones we actually wore. We didn’t have a fireplace mantel so we hung our socks on our bedroom door knobs and when we moved to a bigger house they were hung on the stair rail. I thought I was quite smart the year I hung up one of my knee socks. But Santa was too smart for me and he filled up the extra space with scrunched up newspaper.
Christmas morning we would dig in those socks to see what goodies we would find. There would be a small toy when we were little and some small gadget when we were older. There would be new socks and maybe a comic book. When we were older there was perfume for me and cologne for my brothers. Yes, there was sugary goodness, too. Chocolate and peppermint candy, peanuts and bubble gum. In the toe of the sock there was always an onion. Just to remind us we weren’t that good.
The Christmas stocking is my favorite memory of Christmas morning. It reminds me of my mother’s love and humor. We were often at odds. My temper would flare and she would put on her pea mouth and give me the silent treatment but there was always something like that silly onion in the sock that let me know she loved me in spite of our differences.
“It is wise to accept that (human faults) are inevitable. Factor that in and keep going.” Alice Walker
I think the happy people of the world understand that everyone has faults. They accept that all of us are imperfect beings. But they don’t accept that those things that make us less than perfect keep us from having a good life. What keeps us from good happy lives is the belief that where we are and what we do are permanent with no hope of change.
Yes, there are some things that cannot be changed and we have to accept that, do our best and move on. Without a doubt life is challenging and takes effort and energy to do our best. Sometimes our best is just taking the next step and then to keep on going.
Faults are a fact of life. But they don’t have to be the main attraction.