I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou
Friday I went to get my COVID vaccine. I had an appointment but I expected to have to wait and had accepted that fact. The articles in the paper made it sound like getting the vaccine was unpleasant and took hours. Wrong!
I walked in to the building, followed the signs, and checked in. No lines. A woman asked me a couple of questions, I signed a paper and was told to see the man in a blue jacket. He told me to please sit in chair #5. I walked over to the chair and before I could sit down he came over and said someone was ready to see me. He showed me over to a table and introduced me to the nurse. She asked a few questions, gave me the shot and a card noting the day and time and what the injection was. Then she told me I could make an appointment for the second vaccination at another table. I went there and made the appointment and was told to go to the back of the room and sit for 20 minutes and if I felt okay and wasn’t having any side affects I could go. I left in 20 minutes feeling fine.
I was there less than an hour, maybe in part because I filled out the paperwork on line the day I made the appointment. But the best part was the people. Everyone I interacted with was smiling and friendly and they seemed to be genuinely happy to see me. They took their time. They answered questions. I never felt rushed or that I was just a thing they had to take care of and be done with. All the clerks, aides, and nurses were happy people and that made me a happier person.
Maya Angelou was right. I will always remember the people at the site and how happy they were and how that made me feel; happy to be there and to be me.
Perhaps the most radical act of resistance in the face of adversity is to live joyfully. Ari Honarvar
How we handle adversity says a lot about who and what we are. Life is not always easy or pleasant. Bad, even horrible things sometimes happen. There are times and events that happen that hurt deeply and leave scars that will remind us of the trials and sorrows forever. What we do and don’t do during and after the hurt determines how we live, how we continue our journey.
When we live joyfully, the less than perfect circumstances and situations that we face are not as bad as they could be. Joy is not the same as happiness. Happiness comes and goes. Yes, it feels so good when we are in that moment. But that moment is just that, a brief time of feeling special and good and well and happy, it isn’t lasting. Oh, there are fond memories of happiness and it is good to remember those times and happenings. Without the memories of happiness life would be small and trivial.
But joy is not dependent on what is or is not happening. It is a state of being that resides in the heart. It is a warmth that cannot be cooled by the day to day business of life. It is a strength that cannot be weakened by an adversary no matter how big or threatening. It is a knowing that doesn’t allow lies or false beliefs to become truth.
Joy is within all of us. It is not loud and bossy fighting to be felt or heard. It waits for us to acknowledge it, to welcome it, to be thankful, and allow it to do its work in us. Once we begin joyfully living no one can take it away from us. There are those who will try to take it away, even the devil will try. But once we claim that joy it’s ours forever.
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. Winston Churchill
Yesterday was not great. It was a sort of nothing day. Everything was just blah. Nothing made happy. Netflix was not interesting. The book I was reading was sad. I didn’t go for a walk. I didn’t talk to anyone. I took a long nap. Woke up with a headache. Not my usual positive self. My attitude was ugly.
Today all is back to normal. The sunshine is bright. The clouds are white and wispy. Walking was a delight. Looking forward to starting a new book. Netflix has a new season of a series I like. Making brownies to share. No need for a nap. Back to my normal self. My attitude is as usual. Happy!
Have no idea what brought on the ugly blahs yesterday. Just very glad they are gone! I don’t know how always negative people survive. I would not want to live in a constant negative state. Very thankful that I don’t!
“What we see depends mainly on what we look for.” John Lubbock
Whatever we are looking for we need to understand that how we look at it will probably determine what we think of it. If we see something we think is pretty we will like it but if we think it is ugly we won’t. If someone agrees with what we say we think they are wise if they don’t we think they aren’t. This is especially true when it comes to politics. Your party is right the other is wrong. Your candidate is perfect theirs is not.
We need to remember that there is more to words and actions then what we see. It is important to take some time and think before we judge others. It is important to listen, really listen with intent, before we speak. And when we have something to say to consider our words before we voice them and our actions before we move in any direction.
Today we have a new President. You may or may not like who he is or what his thoughts and plans are for the future. But remember if we only look for what we won’t like and don’t look at what is actually happening we may miss what needs to be seen and heard be it good or bad.
“A man is happy so long as he chooses to be happy.”
I agree with Alexander! Life has its ups and downs. Sometimes we soar high and sometimes we are in a deep pit. If we are in a pit just wallowing there and don’t do what we can to climb up and out we will remain miserable. I know I spend time in the pit on occasion. One thing I know for sure is that I really don’t like being there. And I know that it takes hard work to get back on firm ground, often really hard work.
The thing about hard work is that it develops muscle and agility and fortitude. That’s good because we all have problems and troubles. It takes courage and strength to face those things and and to not allow them to be the deciding factor of our attitude and how we live our lives.
Maybe the best thing that we get from the hard work is that we can soar even higher!
The most important decision you will ever make is to be in a good mood. Voltaire
I have to agree with with Voltaire. We have a choice. We can be in a good mood or a bad mood. Oh, I know sometimes things get us down or don’t go our way. Happens to me more than I like and when the mood is bad I sometimes dwell in it for awhile. But I don’t like being miserable! So, I make the decision to shake off that ugliness and get on with my good old ditzy life.
I am talking about everyday bad moods not the moods that happen when there is loss, sorrow, grief, heartache…those things need to be felt and acknowledged…they are not bad moods they are major life happenings. Major life happenings need time and care to come to terms with over time.