Age is a case of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter. Satchel Paige
Yesterday was my birthday. I know how old I am and it’s weird. I mean how did I get so old? And why don’t I feel old? Okay, I do know that I don’t physically feel the way I did when I was young. But I don’t feel as old as I thought I would feel when I was young and thought about old age. But then I didn’t really think I would ever be this old. Given my lifestyle back in the day I think most people thought the same.
One thing I do know for sure is that I am happier as an old woman than I was as a young one. That’s one of the gifts I have been given over the years, happiness. And the sense that I am okay. I’m not brilliant, or especially beautiful. Oh, I am smart enough and though I was not much to look at as a teen I did get better with time and age and was often told I was beautiful. And these days people seem to be surprised when they learn how old I am so I guess I’m doing the aging thing okay. Or maybe they are just humoring me. Whatever, it doesn’t matter.
Anyway, yesterday was a good day, a happy birthday. And now yesterday is gone and it is today which is the only day I can live so I’ll make the best of it. Everyday has its good and not so good and occasionally some pretty miserable stuff happening but in everyday there is joy. I am abundantly blessed and so thankful for another day of life.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, But it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. Jim Hayes
I pretty much have a positive attitude. There are times when it sort of sits in the background when I am “in a mood”. But overall I’m positive and it does annoy some people. One person in particular thinks I am unrealistic in the way I look at life and it does annoy her. I think it’s because she has such a negative attitude. She isn’t negative just some of the time about some things but all of the the time about everything. And it annoys me! Who knows maybe that makes being negative worth the effort for her.
Still I like her and consider her a friend. Is that crazy or just being normal? I’m okay with crazy. I think normal is over-rated.
Life’s burdens are lighter when I laugh at myself. Jonathan Lockwood Huie
It is a fact that much of life is serious, very serious. Somehow the serious stuff always seems really hard and difficult. It can steal your good nature if you let it and make you miserable. I know this without a doubt because there have been times I have let some serious stuff erase from my consciousness all the good worthy of thought stuff.
When I was young I was not a very happy person. And that’s putting it mildly. I rarely laughed about anything. Certainly not at myself. I did have a serious problem that was not recognized at the time as a problem by the doctors my parents took me to. So, I tried my best to put a happy face on and go about living my miserable (in my mind) life. As a young adult out on my own with a job and my own apartment and after making some really seriously awful choices and decisions I started doing some research. I found that there was a reason for some of my problems.
It took a while to find the right doctors with the right training and most importantly the ability to listen and hear what I was telling them…not what they thought they heard but what I was in fact saying. Took time and patience on everyone’s part and some trial and error but answers were found. It was like I was a new person, bright and shiny with happiness. Now I have a happy face for real.
The most important thing I learned is that how we look at life and how we react and work through difficult times is key. If all we see is the problem and only feel the burden of it and let it take away our good-nature and basic happiness we are doomed. All the wonders of modern medicine are worthless if we have forgotten how to laugh.
One reason that cats are happier than people is that they have no newspapers. Gwendolyn Brooks
My happy cats.
Teddy and Jack have no interest in the newspaper. Actually, they really don’t like the newspaper. I don’t pay attention to them when I am reading the paper and doing the daily puzzles. That doesn’t exactly make them happy. And they are very good at getting my attention. Jack meows loudly and taps my legs without stop. Teddy pushes at the paper until he is in my lap and laying on the paper.
It doesn’t take long for me to stop the newspaper nonsense and pay attention to them giving them scratches and chin rubs and sweet talking them. When they are satisfied that I understand what’s important they happily go off for morning naps.
I think what makes them happy isn’t that they don’t have newspapers but that they can use the newspaper to make me remember what’s really important in the world and why Patricia’s Place is a happy place no matter what the news reports have to say. And truthfully, if it wasn’t for the puzzles, the news ain’t all that great and most days could really get me down if not for my catkids.
We all know someone, or many someones, who are very vocal about their problems and suffering that drives us crazy. They always seem to have something to complain about and make it quite clear that their life is awful…and that we should agree with them. So, just agree with them. Don’t make any suggestions or even hint that things will get better. That will just start another tirade about how you don’t understand them and what an awful time they are having.
It is okay to have an occasional rant about our troubles and woes, even good for us. It can be cathartic to just let it all out and then be done with it. I have been known to rant and rave about what is bothering me but I see no need to go on and on. Carrying on just makes whoever is listening wonder why they ever thought of you as a nice person.
One bit of advise then this mini rant will be over. If you suffer loudly and long it is best to be sure the person subjected to it is a really good friend…or someone you don’t care about at all.