life · past · present · whatever!

Monday musings…

Contentment is accepting the world
as an imperfect place.
Anonymous

I wasn’t always content, far from it. There was more to my discontent than the usual stuff of being a teenager, and it got worse with time. As a young woman and into middle age, I was unhappy most of the time. It just became the norm for me.

Somewhere around 50 years, I got tired of the life I was living. I decided to make some changes, but I didn’t know quite what they would be. So, for a time, I went to a psychologist. Best thing I ever did!

I learned a lot about myself and how I looked at life and living. The biggest thing I learned was how often I said or thought, “I should.” Why did I think “I should” do something or be something, feel or want to be different in some way? I was always trying to be who or what I thought others expected or wanted me to be. The whole experience of being in counseling was eye-opening. It was difficult, and it hurt. There were lots of tears. Oh, and there was laughter, too. I’m a pretty funny person. I thought that was a bad thing. There wasn’t a lot of laughter in our house when I was growing up.

Anyway, when I came to my 50th birthday, I decided I would be who I am. I would just be me, whoever and whatever that was. I likened it to being a butterfly. I was leaving the cocoon and would be the real me. Another best thing I ever did!

Do you know what I found out when I left the cocoon? I am a curious, daydreaming, intelligent introvert with a good sense of humor. Some people like me, some don’t, and that’s okay.

The most important lesson I learned is that I don’t have to be what others want me to be or who they think I ought to be. I am who I am, the good, the bad, and the sometimes ugly. Deal with it or go and bother somebody else with your idealistic nonsense.

Oh, by the way on my 50th birthday, I got a tattoo.
It’s a butterfly just out of the cocoon and beginning to fly.

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challenge · life · whatever!

Thursday thoughts…

It is really complicated to make something simple,
but really simple to make something complicated.
Cool Funny Quotes

I have a good reason for why today’s post is later than usual.
Just read the quote above the picture of Teddy.

I am not a the greatest computer user around. I am not the worst but there are times the computer is, shall we say , a challenge. Today it has been a challenge. I use an app when I write. Or I used to use it. Not long ago it stopped working when I write a blog post. It works fine on comments but not when I write a post.

So, I contacted the app’s customer service. They got back to me right away with what to do and they would help me fix the problem. I was happy to hear from them so quickly but the instructions they sent me were complicated! At least to me, I guess they are simple to techie wizards. I texted again and told them duh…huh? They texted back and “clarified” the instructions. Well, sort of. I went to where I was told to go on my computer and started the process.

But there was a big warning thingie that had all kinds of warnings and exclamation points about making any changes there. Kinda scary. Actually, very scary! I thought about doing what they told me to do. They are the experts and wouldn’t tell me to do something that would destroy my computer, right? Most likely I just don’t understand the instructions. But I do understand that when something is too complicated for me comprehend it is better to leave well enough alone

So, where does that leave me? With no editing help here except when I make comments. Oh, I will continue to write. I will just plod along with my English knowledge as a high school dropout. Things might not be perfect but you know how I feel about perfection. If you don’t, read Monday musings that I wrote July 5.


life · perfection · whatever!

Monday musings…

There is a kind of beauty in imperfection.
Conrad Hall


I like this quote because I believe there is no beauty in perfection.
Actually, I am not sure there is such a thing as perfection in this world we live in.

There is great beauty in nature, but it is not necessarily perfect. Storms, earthquakes, tsunamis, droughts, any natural disaster brings imperfection to what may have seemed perfect.

Animals, birds, reptiles, fish, and even insects have an attractiveness to them, though it may be a bit strange. We may find them interesting and often lovely, but there are things in their nature that we find difficult to see as perfect.

And people! How many perfect people do you know, or even know of? There may be some who are pretty close to perfect in what we consider beautiful, but is there really perfection in the physical aspect of human beings? As for the intellectual and emotional parts and pieces of people; how can there be perfection when those things are constantly changing? Customs, habits, dispositions, quirks, attitudes, likes, dislikes; those things are different for everyone. How can perfection be defined or found?

As I said in the beginning of this…I don’t believe there is beauty in perfection.
If every living thing, in this world, was without any faults or flaws
would that be perfect or incredibly boring?

Heaven, I am told is perfect, but I have never been there.
I am fine not knowing for now.

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life · Time · whatever!

Monday musings…

“What lies behind us and what lies before us
are tiny matters compared to
what lies within us.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

The past is over and done with, yesterday can’t be changed. Whatever has happened we can learn from to help us be strong, resilient, compassionate and caring, people of integrity today. The future isn’t here yet, we can’t live it today. We can think about it, dream, plan, hope and, work to make the world a better place tomorrow.

It matters little what we look like, or seem to be like, on the outside. What matters is what is within us, what is deep in our hearts and minds. We can take the hurt and pain from the past and let it help to make us more understanding of the struggles of others. We can take the beauty and happiness of the past and share it with others and help them to see that these are meant for them, too.

Yesterday and today are the foundation of tomorrow.
We are meant to use what is within us to make a better world.

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