“Never harbor grudges; they sour your stomach and do no harm to anyone else.” Robertson Davies
I agree that we shouldn’t hang onto grudges no matter how righteous we may think they are. Keeping track of grudges makes us unhappy and takes away from the simple pleasures of every day. Truly a waste of time. But I am not sure if harboring grudges doesn’t sometimes harm others.
Whatever wrongs or bad feelings we hold against another can hurt them. Maybe we were good friends. Maybe they need us in their life and we help them in some way whether we know it or not. If not good friends then maybe we were an acquaintance that simply filled a place in their life that was empty and only we fit in that space.
Even if we still interact with the one we are “grudging” against having that wall of chill between us can’t be good. Cold shoulders can lead to other aches and pains and ugliness and that can’t be good for the “grudgee” or the “grudger.” As adults do we really have time to waste on childish behavior?
If you are holding a grudge, if possible go talk to that person. It could all be just a misunderstanding. If not a misunderstanding and a true wrong that has been done perhaps it can be righted. Worth a try. If whatever the problem is cannot be resolved give it up and find forgiveness in your heart and part ways. Both of you will be better off.
“The world is changed by your example, not your opinion.” Paul Coehlo
News reports and social media show us just how easy it is to give an opinion. Many just open their mouth and start talking about something whether or not they know anything about the subject. Often they talk in circles changing their opinion a dozen times until they are accepted and agreed with by their listeners.
Sometimes confusion is such that people stop paying attention and go their merry way when in fact that is exactly what the speaker wants to happen. This is frightening because things are then made to seem like they are simply the way of life, normal and true.
We must take the time to listen carefully especially to those who are influential and have power to make their opinions our way of life. We must expect to be listened to when we have questions or a difference of opinion and not let those who speak the loudest be the only ones heard. Most importantly we must look at the examples being shown by those who do speak the loudest, and often in circles, in an effort to make their wishes and desires become ours, too.
I didn’t mean to make this quite so serious or a personal tirade but it is what it is. Bottom line here…it is easy to have opinions about what the world should be like but difficult to be an example of how to accomplish the dreams and visions for it. I think if we all took care of the little part of the world we inhabit and were less opinionated and better examples this old world would be a better place.
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