Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Les Brown
Most people in our lives have ideas and expectations of who we are or who we think we should be. Most often, those who love and respect us see the potential for our success and happiness. They encourage us and help us find our way.
But there may be others who become stumbling blocks because they are trying to live through us. They want what we have and to be who we are. When we do things differently and follow the path we see, they may become argumentive and discouraging. They may tell us we are disappointing, that we don’t understand, that experience has taught them the right thing to do.
It is wise to listen to advice from many people and to listen to their opinions, taking the time to consider their views. We have one life to live, and we are to live it as who we are, not as someone else may want us to be. So, listen and think, ponder and wonder. If we are true to ourselves, we will do what we know is best for us and walk our path wherever it leads.
The past has no power over the present moment. Eckhart Tolle
I woke up about 4am this morning and could not go back to sleep. Why? Because I started thinking about something that happened many years ago. I could not stop thinking about it, and it upset me to the point I wanted to scream!
I was given some advice by someone I trusted. I did what I was told to do and it was a mistake. A big mistake! The part that upsets me is that I didn’t agree with the advice and yet I followed it. My inner self told me it wasn’t the best option, that what I wanted to do was right. Still, this person was a professional with lots of experience and I was just learning.
I know now to follow my intuition, but back then I was unsure of myself and was looking for someone else to solve my problem. The problem last night was that I was angry, not just with my advisor but more so with myself. I don’t often lose sleep over this anymore and when I do it is upsetting.
Silly, isn’t it? It is over and done and life has gone on. I have survived and flourished in spite of the bad advice and my inexperience. It has taken a lot of determination and hard work and I have come to the understanding that I am to learn from my mistakes, to put the past where it belongs, and to live in the present. Usually, I don’t let the past bother me to the point of sleepless nights, but sometimes I forget my own good advice.
I rarely think about this anymore but when I do… let’s just say I am less than my best self. Grrrrrr.
I try to maintain a healthy dose of daydreaming, to remain sane. Florence Welch
I can’t imagine life without daydreaming. I guess there are people who think it’s just a way to waste time, but I don’t think it is time wasted. It is an important activity to keep one levelheaded and happy.
I daydream quite often. Usually a few times a day. Sometimes it leads to doing something constructive. Sometimes it solves a problem that seemed impossible to work out. Sometimes it gives me something to ponder and wonder about. Daydreaming always relieves stress and relaxes me. It never disappoints!
I don’t often give advice, but here is some…daydream today! Don’t worry, anything important on your to-do list will get done. A good daydream will make your day better then it would be without that time out to just be alone with yourself. Oh, and as far as I know there are no bad daydreams. Those would be a nightmare while you are awake (a daymare?) and I have never had one of those, and like I said I daydream quite often. So, go for it!