“I am not what happened to me.
I am what I choose to become.”
I do not agree with the first sentence of the quote. We often have little or no choice about what happens to us.
Some things happen to us that may determine who we are.
I do agree with the second sentence.
We can choose what we become.
I think who and what are two different things.
I am not sure I agree with Mr Smith.
I do agree danger is real, but I am not sure fear is a choice.
I do think what we do when afraid and how we react is a choice.
When we are afraid we may run and hide.
Then we have a choice stay in our hiding place or leave it.
When we are afraid of something we can do everything
possible to avoid it or we can choose to confront it.
Fear has many faces and is different for everyone.
What you fear I may laugh at and you may think my fear is silly.
But for each of us the fear, real or imagined, is not a choice it just is.
The challenge is to do what needs to be done to overcome it.
Easier said than done, I know.
Sometimes we have the courage within us to deal with it on our own.
Other times we may need help. No shame in that.
But it can be hard to admit we are afraid and need help.
We would be wise to take some advice from Jack.
He watched Teddy jump up on the armoire in my bedroom.
It’s a tall armoire, about six and a half feet tall, and Teddy loves it up there.
So one day Jack jumped up there.
He did not love it!
He was afraid up there and afraid to jump down.
I was in the kitchen and could hear him crying for help. I know just how he felt.
He didn’t choose to be afraid. But he was.
And he was smart enough to call for help.