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Monday Musings…

“Most folks are as happy as
they make up their minds to be.”
Abraham Lincoln

photo by Kari Shea at StockSnap

I totally agree with Abe on this. It’s up to us whether or not we are happy. I am not a Pollyanna kind of person who thinks everything is wonderfully rosy all the time. I know there are times in all our lives that are pretty awful. Bad stuff happens that’s a fact of life but how we choose to respond is up to us.

We can choose to wallow in self-pity feeling sorry for ourselves or we can stand tall and look for solutions to the problems we face. Yes, we may become depressed and sad. Not everything in life brings a smile or laugh. Some things make us angry or we cry in our distress and feel alone. How we react to our feelings will determine how we respond and the next steps we take.

Life is a journey that is, if not easy usually enjoyable, but not always. There will be mud puddles and some trash along the path and sometimes mountains to climb or tunnel through or places that have been flooded and need a bridge built. It is up to us how we do what needs to be done and what we focus on, the trials or the trail up ahead still to be explored.

It takes a strong will and courage, a sense of humor and a loving heart, and the people we love who love us to face the challenges of life. It may be easier to be miserable but being happy is so much more…much much more!

Posted in Kindness Challenge, reflections, whatever!

Choosing Kindness, reflection…

Kindness Challenge, week 5
Choosing Kindness

For the most part, it easy to be kind; to smile and say hello to someone you pass while walking or at the mall or grocery store.  It’s not difficult to pick up something someone dropped or get something off a high shelf for someone who can’t reach it. Little acts of kindness are easy to do.

Some difficult things are easy to do when you are doing them for someone you care about or have empathy for and understand why they need help. To send cards or flowers, take a meal to them, go to the grocery or pharmacy to get what is needed, do the laundry or straighten up the kitchen, be encouraging or just be there to listen to them.  When love is the motivation kindness is not difficult.

It is easy to be kind…except when it isn’t.


We sometimes have to choose to be kind. When we are busy and have a lot on our mind and in a hurry it’s a choice to smile and pass the time of day, to help someone struggling to get on the bus with an arm full of packages, let someone go ahead of you in line at the bank, post office or store. It’s inconvenient to be kind sometimes but does that make it any less important?

When we hear of an illness, accident or death and it doesn’t concern someone we know well or involves someone we don’t care for it takes extra effort to help them and to be kind. If a person needs kindness does it matter whether or not we like them or their lifestyle or beliefs, whether or not they have good hygiene or clean clothes?

In her Challenge post for this week, Niki included this quote:

It’s not our job to play judge and jury, to determine who is worthy of our kindness and who is not.  We just need to be kind, unconditionally and without ulterior motive, even – or rather, especially – when we’d prefer not to be.
Josh Radnor

It may not be easy but it is simple…
love one another.

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Fill in the blank…

Friendly Fill-Ins, Week 35


I have seen more than a few rock bands but my all time favorite to see is symphony orchestras play in concert.


 I would like to attend a Cleveland Symphony Orchestra concert. It’s been too long!


 In the dead of Winter, I bake a lot.


 The main ringer on my cell phone is Calling You, it’s one of the choices that comes with the phone. 

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Danger is real…

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“Danger is real, fear is a choice.”
Will Smith

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Saturday, finding friendship and home…

A Black Cat Book Review


Finding Our Way Home


Charlene Ann Baumbich

Evelyn Burt is young and in love.  She has put off going away to college to stay in her hometown to be near the one she loves.  Sasha Davis is not as young and in love.  She has returned to her hometown to hide from the one she loves.  The two women are in the same town, right where they need to be, to learn about loving.

Sasha is a ballerina whose career has been cut short by a devastating accident.  The accident not only injured her physically but brought about a depression that threatens to destroy what is most important to her.  She thinks dance is what is most important but while her body is healing so is her broken heart.  With healing she will learn the truth of what is important.

Evelyn wants to be independent to show her parents that the choices she is making are the right ones.  She goes to work for Sasha as a live-in aide and assistant.  Her youthful exuberance and innocence try Sasha’s patience but also open Sasha’s eyes to what her depression has not let her see.  And Evelyn learns, from Sasha’s experience, that right choices are not always forever choices; often they are just steps to better ones.

What starts out as a business relationship, employer and employee, becomes much more.  Evelyn and Sasha learn that their strengths and weaknesses compliment each other.  Evelyn’s determined take charge impulsiveness gets Sasha moving again and Sasha’s quiet acceptance of life’s challenges gives Evelyn new perspective and direction.

As their friendship blossoms so does their faith; Evelyn’s faith is affirmed and Sasha’s is renewed as they find their way to where home really is.

Baumbich writes a sweet and affirming story about the friendship of women.  The need we have to share our lives with one another, our worth as women at any age, how we comfort and encourage each other through the good and not so good of life.  She reminded me that young women need the perspective of older women to see beyond today and older women need the energy of the younger to leave the past.

If you are at a point where you are thinking that maybe friendship is not worth the work it sometimes takes–read this book!

Finding Our Way Home was sent to me free of charge by WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group in exchange for this review.