life · memories · whatever!

Monday musings…

“You can be happy, or you can be unhappy.
It’s just according to how you look at things.”
Walt Disney

Not every moment is a happy one. Sometimes stuff happens that makes us unhappy. Life is never, or very rarely, perfect. That’s the way life is. It is good or bad, and most of the time, it is just okay.

I am pretty satisfied with okay. In fact, to me, okay is pretty good and much better than bad. When things are okay, I am happy. Life is usually good, so I am not often unhappy.

Sadly, I have an unhappy friend. In all the years I have known her, I have never heard her laugh. Never! She does occasionally smile, and sometimes she has something positive to say, not often but sometimes.

Admittedly, she has had some hard times and disappointments, but that is the way it is for all of us. It is up to us to come to terms with the bad and sad. If it means asking for help, do it. If it means forgiving what seems unforgivable, do it…as often as needed.

Asking for help from friends or seeing a therapist is not a weakness. It takes strength and courage to be open and honest about troubles and pain. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, but it does mean letting go. Letting go of the bad memories. Letting go of the hopes and wishes that were part of the dreams that didn’t come true. Letting go of those that caused pain and grief.

I have talked to my friend about these things. She says I don’t understand because I have a good life and never had to face hardship. If she only knew what I am not telling her! Maybe someday, I will be able to be completely open with her. But I still have work to do before that can happen.

Life isn’t easy, but it is good.
As Mr. Disney said, it’s all in how you look at it.

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life · routine · success · whatever!

Monday musings…

The secret to your success
is found in your daily routine.
John C. Maxwell

If someone took a look at my usual daily routine they wouldn’t think I am a success, but I think I am. My days now are quiet, and for the most part doing only what I want to do. I am retired and that is part of my success. I worked full-time for 50 years and some of those years I also worked part-time. I am by no means wealthy, but I can pay the monthly bills. I may not have everything I want, but I do have everything I need.

The friendships I have are a big part of my success. I have wonderful friends that I love and respect. There are those that I know I can call if I need anything, and they will do whatever they can to help. Truthfully, there have been times that I would have given up the fight without them. And of course, there is family. The family I have left live in a different state and I haven’t seen them in quite a while. But, there is a bond that cannot be broken and I treasure my family. Friends and family are blessings. Precious gifts from God.

I am happy and content.
That is success to me.

What defines success for you?

Quotes and Questions · whatever!

Quotes & Questions 2018 #5…


“A friend is someone who understands your past,
believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.”


I don’t know who said this but I agree with whoever it was. True friends are those people who know you, really know you, and still think you are wonderful. They say what needs to be said and keep quiet when words won’t work. They make the good things great and the bad things bearable.

There aren’t a lot of people who are this kind of friend and that’s okay because you only need one to make it through life’s pleasures and perils. I am blessed because there are more than one of these special souls to walk with me on my journey.

Do you have a friend who understands, believes, and accepts?