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Monday Musings…

“When I started counting my blessings,
my whole life turned around.”
Willie Nelson

Good for Willie! He has found the key to happiness.

Counting your blessings makes everything better. It doesn’t take away the difficult times or make all the wrongs right. There are still tears and hurts and grief that come our way but they don’t drag us down into the bottomless pit of despair when we remember the blessings in life.

There are times when I let myself be dragged down and I sort of wallow in the mess of being miserable for awhile. But those times are fewer and less dramatic than they used to be and the reason is that I have learned to count my blessings.

In the beginning of my blessing counting days it was a bit hard to make a list of the good things in my life. I thought blessings were big things, things that were awesome and made me stop and say WOW! But I have learned a few things since then.

Blessings are big things like not being homeless or hungry, being healthy, having family and friends and pets to share life. Blessings are the wonders of nature; trees and flowers, squirrels and birds, clouds that make temporary paintings on the sky, soft rain, lightening and thunderstorms, the stars and moon that decorate the night.

Blessings are also the small things; waking up and remembering a dream, a morning walk, a warm shower and shampooing your hair, lotion that makes your skin feel soft, laughter, conversation, the feel and smell of freshly washed sheets, an afternoon snack of coffee and cookies, reading a good book, watching a movie, sitting quietly by yourself or with someone you love. The list is endless.

Some situations and circumstances try to hide blessings. Sometimes we have to sort through the messiness of life to see or recognize them and there are some that don’t seem like blessings at all but with time they are revealed as some of the wonders of life. Ya just gotta have faith…and a lot of patience!

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Monday Musings…

“Look on every exit as being
an entrance somewhere else.”
Tom Stoppard

Image by Auberge from Pixabay

It seems most people think of an exit as an ending but surely it is more than that. There can be no beginnings without endings. It starts with birth. We leave the womb and enter this life apart from the place where we were brought into being. Beginnings and endings go on and on all through life.

We continue to exit from where we are and find ourselves at the entrance to new experiences and lessons. Some look at these doorways with fear and foreboding, others with happiness and excitement . I have stood at my doorways with both attitudes and feelings at different times and places in my life.

I have found that things are rarely as bad as I think they will be and usually much better than I imagined. It has a lot to do with mindset. If you think the worst will happen you will be miserable and miss out on the wonder of exploring the world while on your journey and that would just be too sad.

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Monday Musings…

“Maybe your weird is my normal.
Who’s to say?”
Nicki Manaj

Image by AllNikArt from Pixabay

There are those who think I am weird and that’s okay with me. I sort of agree with them. My lifestyle isn’t one that would make many folks happy. For the most part, I like to be alone in my home, just me and the catkids. I also like it quiet. I rarely have the radio on or the TV.

I am definitely a quiet introvert. I don’t socialize much and when I do I prefer small gatherings. I can be quite talkative when with friends or once I get to know someone but with those I don’t know I tend to keep in the background.

People ask me if I get bored being retired and on my own most of the time. The answer is, no. My favorite things to do are those things that one does by themselves like reading, writing, doing puzzles, crocheting and needlework. Even before retirement those were my chosen past-times and I never had enough time for them. Now I do.

I used to be a bit embarrassed that I wasn’t more outgoing and active because people were always trying to get me out more and to be more social thinking that I was lonely or depressed. I wasn’t then and I am not now. I am happy with my life.

So, maybe I am weird. I don’t care, others can think what they want. Of course, it is entirely possible that they are the ones who are weird. Really, who’s to say?


	
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Monday Musings…

“Life is what we make it,
always has been, always will be.”
Grandma Moses

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Image by taiteilijatar from Pixabay

If you have spent any time reading Patricia’s Place you know that I tend to be positive.  I know there is ugliness in the world and there has been some in my life.  I choose to learn the lessons negative things have to teach and move on rather than dwell in that place. There are times I am hurt and unhappy and I cry. I think unhappiness, sadness, grief, hurt, anger, all the negatives are just part of life and crying is what helps cleanse our feelings and emotions so we can heal and be happy again. 

I know a woman who is very unhappy.  She complains constantly and almost always has a negative response to any comment.  I don’t think I have ever heard her laugh. Oh, occasionally there is a little chuckle that is short and quiet but never a great big loud guffaw belly laugh that makes you happy just to hear it whether you know the reason for it or not. She is very smart and a hard worker. I like her and I think she likes me. But we rarely agree about anything! She always sees the negative and never wants to consider that she may be wrong.

How we look at life and how we respond to what has happened, is happening, and what may happen makes a difference in the kind of life we live. It is our decision whether to dwell in the past or worry about what the future holds or live in the here and now with happy grateful hearts. I think whether we are basically happy or miserable is up to us.

I know I drive my friend crazy with my positivity,
just like she drives me crazy with her negativity.
I won’t give up.
I am positively stubborn!
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Monday Musings…

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and
discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes

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Image by Mimzy from Pixabay

There have been times that though I said, I forgive you, I still held onto the offense and let it fester within until I was simply miserable.  Looking all around me to see what was wrong, neglecting to look at myself with an open and honest heart, I would wonder why I was so unhappy and sad and angry. 

As the quote says I was a prisoner. Locked in a prison of self-righteousness and pride.  Holding onto the wrong done, real or imagined, saying the words but not letting go of the anger and hurt.  Not acknowledging that I was involved in whatever the trouble was. Allowing my need to be right and blameless kept me chained in a pit of arrogance and self-importance.

I have learned some wrongs and hurts cannot or won’t be forgotten but they can be put in a box labeled, The Past.  Honestly, sometimes the box spills open and the memories come back but they don’t overwhelm me. I can remember knowing that the past is over and done, all has been forgiven.  Then I find a peace knowing that with forgiveness comes freedom, freedom filled with love.

 

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Monday Musings…

“I shiver, thinking how easy it is to be
totally wrong about people;
to see only one tiny part of them and
confuse it for the whole.”
Lauren Oliver

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Image by Vegard Ottervig from Pixabay

So often we make judgments about people by the way they dress, how they talk, who their friends are, where they live, how they make their living, whether they are old or young. Without even talking with someone we make up our minds who they are and what kind of person they may be. I am not sure why that is. Probably has something to do with our own vulnerability and lack of self-confidence.

I get upset if I think someone is judging me for something they think they know about me. Some people seem to think I don’t have any problems because I don’t have children or aging parents to care for or because I am retired that I must have made a lot of money when I worked. There are those who think because I am quiet and an introvert that I must have been a sweet well-behaved child/teen/young adult who never rebelled or caused any worries or problems for my family.  None of that is true. I have problems, I don’t have a lot of money, I was a rebellious person. Well, I am still something of a rebel albeit in a quiet non-disruptive way.

Because I do get upset with others because of what I think they are thinking about me I try to see others as just people. Not good or bad, better or worse than me, just people like me living each day as it comes.  Some days I am successful in being non-judgmental some days not so much. But I have learned people are made up of lots of parts and no one part makes them who they are. It takes all the parts put together to make a whole person.

It can be confusing trying to figure out how the parts fit together, though!