Pressure point translates in Japanese to “tender spot”.
What are your pressure points?
I usually don’t have any “tender spots” to write about but…
for the last few days…yes, I have a tender spot.
A dental one that hurts most of my lower jaw.
I went to the dentist and found out there is an infection and I need a root canal.
So, now I am on an antibiotic that is causing its own it own tender spots.
I had a root canal several years ago and my dentist did the deed.
But not this time.
For some reason, I don’t totally understand, I now must go to a dentist
who specializes in Endodontics.
Endodontics…sounds like something to do with robots.
Maybe this dentist is a robot or uses robots?
The questions today are:
Can peer pressure be positive?
Why or why not?
And here’s what I think:
Though the peer pressure that gets the most publicity is of the negative kind
I do think peer pressure can be positive.
I think it all depends on who your peers are and their values and beliefs.
Positive peer pressure is unselfish and builds up.
Negative peer pressure is self-serving and tears down.
There are times when a friend or co-worker comes to me
for a heart-to-heart about something they feel needs to be addressed.
They are always kind and considerate, not pushy, but resolute.
I might feel a little pressure but not the demeaning or bullying pressure
felt with negative peer pressure.
I always appreciate their words but do not always do as they think I should.
Sometimes to my regret.
I am thankful for the thoughtfulness of positive peers
and the courage it takes to speak because
they believe what they have to say is for my good.
Now that I am a woman of a certain age peer pressure means little to me.
There is rarely any peer pressure to bend to…or not to bend to.
Especially at work where I am old woman of the crew.
I work in the office of a retail store.
I am the only person other than the owner and his wife who works in the office.
I do my thing they do theirs. So, no pressure happening there.
The sales staff does their thing and I do mine.
I do my be best to be a good support person for them.
I trust them to do what they need to do and they trust me to do my part.
They don’t pressure me I don’t pressure them.
Sometimes they think I should do something that I think they should do
and sometimes it is the other way around.
Somehow it all works out without pressure from me or them.
Although, there is the occasionally long sigh through gritted teeth.
Then there are the delivery guys.
No pressure from them.
They pretty much just ignore everyone.
So, basically to avoid peer pressure at work
Like and trust each other in spite of your differences.
Be the oldest one on staff–even better be older than the owner/boss.
The prompt for today’s NaBloPoMo challenge is
“Tell us about a time you bent to peer pressure.”
Thinking about what to write has caused me some pressure.
From the time I was a child until sometime in my forties
I just wanted to be one of the in crowd.
You know, the popular people.
Sadly, there are so many times I bent to peer pressure
that they all sort of run together.
So, there isn’t really a time that stands out to write about.
When I think about this I am reminded that no matter what
I did I never was part of the popular inner circle.
I know now that giving in to peer pressure is a waste of time.
I can say that these days I am more happy than not
and it isn’t tied to what my peers are thinking or doing.
It just isn’t important to me anymore.
That’s not to say I never want to be part of the in crowd
or that I am never hurt or feel like an outsider.
I mean, really, I am a “normal” person.
Today instead of doing a review I am going tell you
just a little about some books I have recently read.
The Maid’s Version by Daniel Woodrell
A bitter woman, estranged from her son, tells a story about a tragic fire to her grandson. I liked this book, although, I did find it hard to get into. Once on my way I became interested in the characters and was quite surprised by the ending.
Testimony by Anita Shreve
A sad story all around. There is an incident at a boarding school involving 3 boys and a girl. Because it was recorded and put on the internet it becomes a major crisis in many lives; the 4 students, their parents, the Head Master, friends, and community. Each chapter is a testimony of the people involved and at times seems a bit simplistic but it does add to the character study of each person.
We Are Water by Wally Lamb
A story about marriage and family and the secrets in them. Anna, a successful outsider artist, has left her husband of twenty-seven years and is getting ready to marry her lover, a woman. The turmoil this causes in the lives of her ex-husband and grown children is understandable and Shreve deftly tells each side of the story. I came to like everyone in the family and wanted all to be happy. There is a ghost in the story, part of a story within the story. Not spooky or eerie it makes the book richer.
Never Go Back by Lee Child
This is a Jack Reacher story. Child has written tales of Reacher for years but this is the first I have read. I like Reacher even though he is a bigger than life kind of tough guy and I usually prefer underdogs and normal folks. There is lots of action and intrigue and some humor. I will say that after reading this and getting to know Jack Reacher I cannot image why Tom Cruise was ever cast to play him in a movie. I am glad I read a Jack Reacher novel and now have no plans to see the movie.
So there you have it…books I liked and recommend to fellow readers.