NaBloPoMo · observations · Wednesday

Positive peer pressure…


The questions today are:
Can peer pressure be positive?
Why or why not?

And here’s what I think:


Though the peer pressure that gets the most publicity is of the negative kind
I do think peer pressure can be positive.

I think it all depends on who your peers are and their values and beliefs.
Positive peer pressure is unselfish and builds up.
Negative peer pressure is self-serving and tears down.

There are times when a friend or co-worker comes to me
for a heart-to-heart about something they feel needs to be addressed.
They are always kind and considerate, not pushy, but resolute.
I might feel a little pressure but not the demeaning or bullying pressure
felt with negative peer pressure.

I always appreciate their words but do not always do as they think I should.
Sometimes to my regret.

 I am thankful for the thoughtfulness of positive peers
and the courage it takes to speak because
they believe what they have to say is for my good.

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Peer pressure and normal people…

The prompt for today’s NaBloPoMo challenge is
“Tell us about a time you bent to peer pressure.”


Thinking about what to write has caused me some pressure.
From the time I was a child until sometime in my forties
I just wanted to be one of the in crowd.
You know, the popular people.
Sadly, there are so many times I bent to peer pressure
that they all sort of run together.
So, there isn’t really a time that stands out to write about.

When I think about this I am reminded that no matter what
I did I never was part of the popular inner circle.
I know now that giving in to peer pressure is a waste of time.

I can say that these days I am more happy than not
and it isn’t tied to what my peers are thinking or doing.
It just isn’t important to me anymore.
That’s not to say I never want to be part of the in crowd
or that I am never hurt or feel like an outsider.
I mean, really, I am a “normal” person.